Tuesday, February 10, 2009

Victim #95: Second Wife Says First Wives Should Grow Up and Support Themselves

My very wonderful husband really got taken to the cleaners in his divorce. He was married to his ex for 19 years when they separated. He let her stay in the house while he lived in a hotel. He sent money every month even before the courts ordered him to.

Because his lawyer told him it would pay off in the end. He paid all the bills until he couldn't pay anymore and finally had to file bankruptcy and foreclose on the house while she refused to get a job. His lawyer never showed up for the pretrial, so the judge ordered him to pay $1,200 a month plus all the utilities.

My husband had to get a new attorney and the judge made his final judgment while saying that my husband should have picked a better attorney and then he wouldn't be getting so screwed. She got $1,200 a month, life insurance, college for their 23 year old, and her attorney fees. All alimony for life or until she remarries. Not fair.

How can a state award a woman who chooses not to work that much money a month, but will allow a father to get away with $49 dollars a week to raise a child. That is what I get for my child. The state needs to do something about this. There needs to be fairness in the world.

I don't want my child to grow up, get married, realize that maybe they made a mistake, and have to pay for the rest of his life. Plus what really angers me is that I believe that women have come further than this in the world. We are self-sufficient human beings and we don't need an ex husbands money to make a success out of your life.

I wish I had more child support for my child, but I don't need it. I give him all that he needs, it just would help with the wants. But women that are grown and have children who are grown up, should grow up themselves and support themselves. This is how I feel.