I am a victim of a Domestic Dispute. I cannot afford an Attorney and I am concerned that as a result my Ex-Wife's jealousy, anger, and malice that I will be put in jail for failure to pay my court ordered alimony and child support. I do not know where to turn because my Ex-Wife has not only sabotaged my vehicle but also my job as well. I am concerned that since I cannot afford an Attorney that she will get away with this and only get braver and continue to wreak havoc on my life.
My Ex-Wife was entitled to a free Legal Aid Attorney and I could not afford an Attorney so as a result I got stuck paying substantial and unfair amount of Child Support as well as Alimony. It was not enough that my Ex-Wife got over half of my paycheck and I was forced to work overtime in order to survive but she has also managed to alienate my children from me in the process.
I was hoping to be able to work enough overtime so that I could someday afford an Attorney to help me reduce my child support and alimony payments and possibly help me stop my Ex-Wife from further turning my children against me. I dreamed of the day that I could visit with my children again and speak with them on the phone without the interference and harassment from my Ex-Wife.
Then I started having trouble with my car. I found out that sugar was dumped into the gas tank of my car. I suspected that my Ex-Wife might have something to do with it but at that point I had no way of proving it. So then I had to use any overtime or extra money to try and fix my car. Fortunately, I was able to keep my job because I was able to catch rides to work with my Co-Workers.
At this point when I thought that things were bad enough with the car trouble and disintegrating relationship with my children then things went from bad to worse. It seems that my Ex-Wife is never satisfied. Every time I think that things are as bad as they can possibly get my Ex-Wife comes along and causes more hate and discontent.
We have been divorced for over six months now and reside in separate states and I still cannot manage to get rid or her. I hope that maybe if I share my ordeal with you that maybe you can possibly point me in the right direction or refer me to someone who can help me. I feel that I am at my ropes end.
I was employed at a correctional facility for over two years in Tennessee. It appears that My Ex-Wife has created an Online Internet profile using my personal and private information and taken a nude photo of me that I was unaware existed since our divorce and has been using it against me to seek revenge.
I have attempted to report such to my local authorities as well as the FBI to no avail. When I called my local Sherif's Dept. to report what my Ex-Wife is doing to me they told me that it was a case for the FBI because not only was it out of the jurisdiction but also because they are not equip to handle Internet Crimes. When I called the FBI they referred me back to my local authorities. No one wants to assist me and I cannot afford an Attorney at this time. I feel that I should not be denied my right to justice due to the fact that I cannot afford an attorney. Below, I will attempt to explain the details of my ordeal.
While at my residence during my off duty time, I received a phone call requesting that I report to the warden's office at the facility immediately. I arrived at the facility and proceeded directly to the Warden's office as instructed where I met the him and the chief of security.
After being seated, the warden brought a photo up on the monitor of his computer. The
picture was of me wearing a hat, an unbuttoned shirt, with my penis exposed. He then asked me if I recognized the picture and if it was of me. I answered yes to both questions while adding that the picture was old. The warden then read some information off to me, which seemed to be from an online profile, my name, age, location, etc. This information included the fact that I worked for a corrections facility in which I would never include in an online profile. At this point, the warden eformed me that I was terminated effective immediately without allowing me any opportunity to say much less explain anything.
The warden then went on to further state that a concerned parent of a 15 year old girl had filed a complaint with the corporate office stating that I had emailed this photo to her daughter and that she had filed a police report on the matter. He then told me that the Sheriff's office would be looking for me as a result of the matter. I then signed the paperwork that he presented to me as well as surrendering my employee ID. I then departed his office as well as the facility. The whole entire process took less than 5 minutes.
I then proceeded directly to the Sheriffs office and checked to see if they were in fact looking for me. A captain Investigations Dept. stated that they were not looking for me. I then left my name and phone number with them and headed home. To this date, I have not received any phone calls from the Sheriffs Dept. I also went as far as to check with the County Sheriffs dept. where I reside as well just in case and they are not looking for me either.
I cannot help but to wonder if anyone cared if the accusations were in fact the truth or not because no one took into consideration that I no longer reside in Florida like the alleged profile had stated, not to mention the fact that if I did send that picture, why would I set myself up to be caught by providing the victim with information that would get me caught?
The warden would not give me any information as to who filed the complaint or the alleged email address that I had allegedly sent this photo from. I feel that the lack of information hindered me from clearing my name and proving my innocence.
To my knowledge, there was no investigation conducted by anyone at correctional facility prior to terminating my employment. I feel that this was very unfair not to mention unprofessional. I believe that I was considered guilty without an opportunity to prove otherwise. Even the Inmates are given a hearing and an opportunity to prove themselves innocent prior to having disciplinary action taken against them. I feel that as an employee of the facility that I should have been given at least equal treatment and consideration as the Inmates if not more.
The reason that I believe that my ex-wife is the one that either sent or had this email sent to to correctional facility is because on earlier she emailed my new Wife with the photo and threatened to call the warden as well as correctional facility about it. Not to mention all of the times that she threatened my job as well as my Wife's job on numerous occasions via telephone and emails. In addition to this my daughter threatened our jobs as well via E-mails, Instant
Messages, as well as the telephone. My daughter threatened to have my Wife and I sent to jail in her last E-mail to us.
No one took into consideration the fact that I had filed a Report in reference to threats and harassment by my Ex-Wife. I also discussed the ongoing harassment by my Ex-Wife. On numerous occasions she called my Wife and I at the facility as well as at home not to mention the emails threatening our jobs, etc.
During third shift while I was off duty, my Ex-Wife showed up at the facility looking for me and made threats against me to the officers who was assigned to post that night. He informed me that she threatened me bodily harm and that she was at the facility looking for me when I returned to work. Therefore it was not like the Supervisors as well as the Administration at the facility were unaware of the threats and ongoing harassment by my Ex-Wife.
After my divorce was final, the harassing and threatening phone calls began in the next month after my Ex-Wife found out that I was seeing my now Wife who was working. My Ex-Wife called and discussed my personal relationship with the Warden and Assistant Warden. I could not help but to notice that after my Ex-Wife talked with my Supervisors as well as the Wardens that my job environment changed drastically in many ways.
I am now not only without a job but also without a car as well. I started having car trouble shortly after my Ex-Wife found out about Andrea. Upon having my car looked at by a mechanic sugar was discovered in the gas tank of my car. I have had my car in the garage for repairs on at least three occasions since and spent at least $1100 trying to have it repaired and it is still not running. Now, I am without a job and as a result have no funds to have it repaired nor can I afford to purchase another vehicle.
In January, my daughter sent my Wife an Instant Message saying that she knew what happened to my car but when my Wife questioned her she logged off. This confirms my suspicion that My Ex-Wife put sugar in the gas tank of my car in hopes that I would have no transportation to work and lose my job as a result.
Now since her sabotaging my vehicle not cause me to lose my job now she sent the nude photo of me pretending to be the a concerned parent saying that I sent the nude photo of myself to a minor in order to get me fired for ethics and morality violations. My Ex-Wife has told me on numerous occasions that she wanted very badly to see me to go to jail for failure to pay child support as well as Alimony. I feel that she is trying to make that happen while hiding behind a screename in cyberspace. Without a job and my car it makes it very difficult for me to pay my court ordered child support and alimony.
I have since filed a grievance with the corrections facility explaining what I believed happened in hopes of getting my job back. I am very concerned that if my job is not reinstated that it will make it very difficult for me to find another job. I am already hearing about slanderous rumors that are circulating in reference to why I lost my job. I am very concerned that my Ex-Wife has succeeded in damaging my reputation to the point that I will never work in the Corrections or Law Enforcement field again.
In my opinion, it is not right that someone can get away with a crime because our Law enforcement agencies are still living in the dark ages. It is just not right that because my Ex-Wife used the Internet to seek revenge that I cannot receive any justice in this matter without an attorney. It is just not fair that my Ex-Wife can get away with getting me fired from this job because she used to Internet to disguise herself. Not to mention the fact that my Ex-Wife is entitled to a Legal Aid Attorney and I am not. I do not feel that it is right that I have always worked and she seldom did and she is entitled to free legal representation while I am not. I do not feel that is at all fair that I am denied of any justice because I cannot afford an Attorney and my free loading Ex-Wife sits at home and meditates all day long on how to wreak further havoc on my life and she gets free legal representation but I work hard in order to pay her alimony and child support and I have to suffer without any legal representation.
It angers me that someone can hide behind a screename and say or do anything without any consequences for their actions. Now I am in fear of going to jail for failure to pay child support and alimony thanks to my Ex-Wife. So now my Ex-Wife may get her wish that I go to jail because I cannot afford an Attorney to stop her. It is just not fair that because I have to give her over half of my salary that I cannot afford an Attorney and she is entitled to a Legal Aid Attorney. Not to mention that the fact that she cannot get away with harassing me and bleeding me dry and I cannot do anything about it because I cannot afford an Attorney.
I feel that just because I cannot afford an Attorney that I should not be denied of my rights or any justice in this matter.